goodbye, 2016

y’all, I am so glad to leave 2016 in the dust.  I can’t think of a single year I have ever wanted to end as much as I do this one.

Here are some things I’ve did and learned this year:

  • that the right hashtags get your Instagram photos way more attention.  I’m going to take you down in Instagram fame, Kylie Jenner.
  • I quit not one, but two jobs.  Yes, I’m still unemployed, but to know I’m not at a job with zero growth, and that I’m not being disrespected on a daily basis, feels good.  Yes, I know people aren’t supposed to quit jobs without a pile of savings and solid plan, but if you’re getting called a bitch every single day by your boss, then you have to go.  The plus? After lots of time reading career blogs, watching TedTalks, and reading some career focused books, I have a much better idea of what I want to be doing with my time when I get back to having a job.
  • That people you would do anything for might not be able, or willing, to do the same for you.  Some will crack under the pressure, and this could lead to things between you, them, and a whole lot of other people to be broken.  I lost someone I adored this fall, and I’m not sure my heart will ever heal. But that’s okay.  Yesterday, I was meditating, and came to the realization that just because this person broke my heart, doesn’t give me the right to break the hearts of other people.  Will I be even slower with letting people in? (assuming I can get any slower) Yes.  But the people who want in, will get in.
  • I have to force myself to be in more social settings.  Being back in Iowa has made this especially obvious.  Even being around people in a coffee shop gets my brain going in a better direction.
  • My tribe/squad/village/family has grown in ways I definitely would have never expected.  Now I need to come up with a good way to show them that I adore them.
  • That whole getting knocked up on my birthday thing.  So overwhelmed, so excited.  Theodore will be here in about a month (and I have done zero to prepare)

Tonight, I will be bingewatching who knows what with Scotti, probably doing face masks and eating way too many Sour Patch Kids.  Earlier, I made a list of all the things from 2016 that were less than stellar, and I plan on setting that list on fire around 11:59.

someone fell in love today Nikita Gill
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If 2016 was the greatest year of your life, congratulations! I hope that things continue being awesome for you. If 2016 seemed like the absolute worst and you’re completely shocked you survived, you only have a few more hours to power through and then you get to start sort of fresh.

on general article titles that annoy me

Yesterday, I was scrolling through Facebook, looking at the Halloween costumes of friends of friends, when I saw an advertisement for some girlpower blog/news site.  The headline? “You’ll Never Believe How Hot Blake Lively’s Brother Is!” or something like that.

And I got super annoyed.

Feminism is gaining more and more traction with every generation, but there seems to be an article daily written about how attractive some male is, and not going into his other accomplishments.  And I recognize that there’s hundreds of articles about females a day that do the same thing, and those are equally frustrating.

For me, part of feminism means treating others how you want not only yourself, but those you adore to be treated.  And just as I hate being judged only for my appearance, I don’t want anyone else to be judged for the same thing.

Because appearances can 1) be deceiving. 2) quickly change.  They tell us nothing about a person’s heart, their background, their imagination, or the type of learning and adventures they crave.

And as for Blake Lively’s brother? Well, I  don’t know too much about him, besides the fact he was in So Weird on the Disney Channel.  (Her other brother was Rusty on National Lampoon’s European Vacation, which is pretty cool.)

So for real, let’s stop acting like the only thing that matters about other people is their appearance.  It’s exhausting and really doesn’t seem to inspire anyone to greatness*.  And while we’re at it, let’s stop with all the “is blahblah dating blahblah” bullshit.  People are more than their significant others.

*Now, I won’t lie.  I love investing money into my appearance.  Face masks, trips to the salon, new dresses and lip stains give me a confidence that makes me feel unstoppable.  Green smoothies make me feel fresh and want to do another 10 minute yoga youtube video. But that’s me.